Metal shows I've attended not represented here with a setlist (blank or otherwise), with dates, venue, city and/or other details (where applicable):

Alcest (Grammercy Theater, NYC, 9/25/2011)
Biohazard (2 times: Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1999 and Riverfront Stadium, Newark, NJ circa 2001)
Borknagar (Tramps, NYC, 7/22/1999)
Cannibal Corpse (Wreck Room, Wallington, NJ circa 2000)
Cathedral (Connections, Clifton, NJ circa 2002-2003)
Cephalic Carnage (Trocadero, Philly, circa 2003)
The Crown (Wreck Room, Wallington, NJ circa 2000)
Dark Tranquillity (BB King's, NYC, circa 2003)
Darkest Hour (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2002-2003)
Daylight Dies (2 times; Trocadero, Philly circa 2003 and BB Kings, NYC 7/14/2006)
Deicide (Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 1998)
The Dillinger Escape Plan (2 times; At a roller rink in Wayne, NJ circa 2001 and Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2002-2003)
Dismember (Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 2000-2001)
God Forbid (5 times; Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1998, Obsessions, Randolph, NJ cica 2000-2001, Krome*, South Amboy, NJ circa 2000-2001 (twice), Riverfront Stadium, Newark, NJ circa 2001)
Gorguts (Krome, South Amboy, NJ 5/24/2001)
Hate Eternal (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ, 7/31/2002)
The Haunted (2 times; Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1999, Krome, South Amboy, NJ circa 2003)
Impaled (Packee's Pub, Woodbridge, NJ circa 2002)
In Flames (2 times; Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 1999 and at a roller rink, Wayne, NJ circa 2001)
Incantation (2 times; Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1998 and Packee's Pub, Woodbridge, NJ circa 2002)
Kataklysm (2 times; Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 2000 and 2002)
King Diamond (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2001)
Krisiun (Obsessions, Randoplh, NJ circa 2000-2001)
Marduk (Krome, South Amboy, NJ, 5/24/2001)
Mastodon (2 times; Trocadero, Philly circa 2003 and Starland Ballroom, Sayerville, NJ circa 2004)
Mercyful Fate (2 times; Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1998 and 1999)
Meshuggah (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2003-2004)
Moonspell (2 times; Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 1999 and Irving Plaza, NYC, 2/27/2004)
Morbid Angel (3 times; Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1998, Krome, South Amboy, NJ circa 1998, and Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2002-2003)
Napalm Death (BB King's, NYC, circa 2003)
Neurosis (2 times; Trocadero, Philly circa 2003 and North Six, Brooklyn, NY circa 2004-2005)
Nevermore (4 times; Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 1999, Krome, South Amboy, NJ circa 2001, Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2001, and at a roller rink, Wayne, NJ circa 2001)
Nile (3 times; Wreck Room, Wallington, NJ circa 2001, Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ, 7/31/2002, and BB King's, NYC circa 2003)
Opeth (Krome, South Amboy, NJ circa 2001)
Peccatum (Tramps, NYC, 7/22/1999)
Sentenced (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ, 9/27/2002)
Shadows Fall (4 times; Obsessions, Randolph, NJ circa 2000, Krome, South Amboy, NJ circa 2001, Riverfront Stadium, Newark, NJ circa 2001, and at a roller rink, Wayne, NJ circa 2001)
Strapping Young Lad (4 times; Connections, Clifton, NJ circa 2002-2003, BB Kings, NYC circa 2003, Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2003-2004, and BB King's, NYC circa 2005)
Type O Negative (CBGB, NYC circa 2003)
Vader (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 1998)
Witchery (Tramps, NYC, 7/22/1999)

*Krome was known at one point as Club Bene, but I have no recollection of the timeline of the change.

Shows by non-metal bands of various genres I've attended not represented here with a setlist (blank or otherwise), with dates, venue, city and/or other details (where applicable):

The Corrs (2 times; Radio City Music Hall, NYC circa 2001 and Rockefeller Center, NYC, for NBC Today tapings circa 2002)
Dixie Chicks (Madison Square Garden, NYC circa 2003)
Flickerstick (5 times; The Stone Pony, Asbury Park, NJ, 9/12/2001, Irving Plaza, NYC circa 2002 (twice), Mercury Lounge, NYC circa 2004, and Chubby's, Red Bank, NJ circa 2006)
Fountains Of Wayne (Meadowlands State Fair, East Rutherford, NJ circa 2003-2004)
Junius (Grammercy Theater, NYC, 9/25/2011)
Michelle Branch (Madison Square Garden, NYC circa 2003)
The Misfits (3 times; Riverfront Stadium, Newark, NJ circa 2001, Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2002-2003, and Starland Ballroom, Sayerville, NJ circa 2005-2006)
Nelly Furtado (2 times; Hammerstein Ballroom, NYC circa 2001-2003 and Town Hall, NYC circa 2004)
Paul Westerberg (2 times; Irving Plaza, NYC circa 2002-2003 and Theater Of Living Arts, Philly circa 2004)
Sponge (Venue unknown, Seaside Heights, NJ circa 2006)
Thursday (Riverfront Stadium, Newark, NJ circa 2001)
The Vines (Birch Hill, Old Bridge, NJ circa 2002-2003

Some local/non-national bands I've seen:

Metal:
Lack There Of (melodic death metal from New Brunswick, NJ, one time)
Machina (metalcore from Edison, NJ, one time)
Restitution (metalcore from Lyndhurst, NJ, one time)
Mortum (black metal from Middlesex, NJ, two or three times)

Non-metal:
America Is Waiting (post-hardcore from ?Texas?, one time)
The Coffin Daggers (surf/punk rock from Jersey City, NJ, one time)
Johnie 3 (pop punk from Ohio, two times)
Nova Social (alternative rock/power pop from Brookly, NY, two or three times)
Particle Zoo (alternative rock from Rockaway, NJ, between 5 and 10 times)
Six To Eight Mathematics (pop punk/alternative rock from ?Elmwood Park, NJ? between 5 and 10 times, at least one or two times under their previous name Random)
Soulcracker (alternative rock from ?San Diego, CA?, one time)
Spiraling (alternative rock from Dunellen, NJ, at least 5 times)
Stuyvesant (pop punk/power pop from Jersey City, NJ, one or two times)
Tonight, We Dance (alternative rock from ?Sayerville, NJ?, two or three times, at least one time under their previous name Amber Brown Vision)
Zolof The Rock & Roll Destroyer (alternative rock/pop punk from Philly, at least three times)

UPDATES:

Updates to the above metal list (January 23, 2012 4:00:36 PM UTC):

The shows for Borknagar, Witchery, and Peccatum listed above was on 7/11/1999, NOT 7/22/1999

Updates to the above non-metal list (January 24, 2012 1:37:42 PM UTC):

Additional shows attended:

Longwave (Maxwell's, Hoboken, NJ circa 2003-2004)
Seachange (The Conduit, Trenton, NJ circa 2004)